Looking for cuckolding advice? You’ve come to the right place! I’m Mistress Erika of Intelligent Phone Fantasy here to give you some very valuable advice! Today I’m going to help you through a recent cuckolding advice call I received and although they received specific advice for their situation, some of the advice is universal for all cuckolds. For cuckold advice that is specific to your situation, just check out my schedule page on my blog to find out how to connect with me!
Cuckold Advice: What’s Your Situation
First things first, when I spoke with “Fred” (names have been changed to protect the naughty!) he told me about his desire for his girlfriend to cuckold him, with the eye on the end goal: Experiencing double penetration with her and another! Keep this in mind, it’s important for later. He has been in a year-long relationship with his GF (Girlfriend), she is open-minded and has a sense of adventure! This is important to any cuckolding relationship, having an open-minded partner! As you have expertly surmised, Fred’s situation isn’t one of “Finding out” his GF is having sex with others, but he is the one who desires this dynamic. If you are the type of cuckold who didn’t expect or want to be a cuckold, this aspect is moot, isn’t it? However, as I mentioned, some of the following advice still applies!
How To Find The Right Stud Lover
If you wake up and realize your partner has FOUND her right stud lover, this aspect isn’t as important for you. You didn’t have a say, and now you are grappling with the WHY. There are many reasons why your partner stepped out of the relationship, and I am sure deep down you do know why but you want to hear from an impartial third party that’s why I am here! Many men have called me and asked me, 1- if their partner is indeed stepping out with a hot stud lover because of their awareness of their partner’s change in behavior, 2- drilling down to the actual reason he’s found himself in a cuckolding relationship, and 3- to work through their emotions about their cuckolding situation, and that can be done through casual chat or roleplaying.
For others who are similar to Fred, finding the right stud lover to join you will be a daunting task. For Fred, I suggested he look around for communities they can join. A swingers club? Perhaps a kinky fetish group? He was lucky he found a local forum for couples looking for playmates! Here are the qualities I told him to look for in a stud lover.
-Mature, not rushing to hop in bed.
– I never suggest a first meeting should involve sex, meet for lunch or coffee in public, and get to know each other
– Talk about STI testing, if you are too shy to ask about (sexually transmitted infection testing,) you are not ready for this relationship
– During your vanilla meeting, ask about their boundaries (as they ask about yours)
– Be honest about what you are looking for : Ex: Occasional hookups/ want him to lead/dominate?
Cuckold Is The Hero
That title might sound odd to you, but it’s true when you are the one introducing cuckolding play. I told Fred to talk with his GF to develop a “safe word” for her to use if she feels the need. The reasoning behind this is “you wanted this.” She is agreeing to engage so you are the one to come to her aid, if needed. For example: Let’s say you agree to hook up with someone, she’s all in, you are all in! Knowing fantasy and reality are not the same, something might come up that makes her question her decision, and she may want to stop the action. With a safeword or phrase, “I am thirsty” (example) tells you that she is uncomfortable for any and whatever reason and wishes for this to stop. That’s when YOU come in and intervene.
Prepare For Curves Ahead
With all the preparation in the world, you are going to experience some curveballs. How do you process or prepare for them? What challenges might there be between your cuckold fantasy and reality? We don’t know what we don’t know, right?
With Fred, he had desires to see if they would engage in double penetration, remember? After being live and in person, he’s thrilled with what they are doing now, and the desire to engage deeper isn’t there.
He’s not taking it totally off the table, it just isn’t as important right now.
Important lesson to learn: be flexible, and it’s ok not to go as planned. Even prepare for your desires to change, or ebb and flow. in fantasy, we control all aspects; in reality, we do not.
Custom Cuckold Advice
Some of what we talked about today will help you in your cuckold journey. But what if it’s not your idea to be a cuckold? What if you have a different circumstance, you can’t find the right stud, or it’s too dangerous to pursue? There is a multitude of various elements when it comes to cuckolding, so who better to discuss your options with than an experienced Mistress?
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