The cuckold fantasy is incredibly hot and very powerful, but should you take the fantasy into your real life bedroom? Some people know it will stay a roleplay fantasy only but others want advice about how to do this with their partner. If you have any fear of being a cuckold in real life, this blog is for you.
Cuckold Personality Quiz
The cuckold fetish is always a hot topic on the BDSM/kink podcast I do with Mistress Erika. Take a listen to this episode where we talk about the different types of cuckold personality. I highly recommend you look at all the episodes of The Weekly Hot Spot podcast. We do all kinds of kinky topics including (every other week) feminization and sissy training episodes. Once you have a sense of your cuckold personality then you can move on to your fears.
What is your fear of being a cuckold?
First, you’ll need to identify what worries you. This is where a Femdom Mistress like me can help. I’ve cuckolded partners and I talk with a lot of people with cuckold fantasies I’ve found the concerns usually fall into several broad categories:
- What will my partner think of me if I confess my cuckold desires
- Will she leave me for the cuck
- Will the reality shatter the fantasy.
There are other things people worry about but these three tend to be the top ones I hear. These fears are valid even if you’re into humiliation.
Here’s an example of someone who called me asking for advice. He knows that he can’t please his wife. He tells me that she is beautiful and sexy. He loves her and he knows he is failing her in the most fundamental way by not being able to please her sexually.
cuckold porn: fantasy versus reality
Like a lot of people, he told me about looking on the internet for advice. At first, he was hoping to find ways to please his sexy wife. He licks her pussy all the time. That’s great but a real woman needs something more, namely a real cock. He found LDW Group’s cuckold fantasies site and found my bio. He calls to talk about his next steps in his marriage.
It makes sense that he’s scared about the next step. I talk with him about his fears and concerns. I give him advice about how to talk with his partner about cuckolding. I think every woman deserves amazing sex.
How to bring up cuckold desires
My advice is don’t just blurt out everything you’ve been thinking about for years. That brain dump will likely overwhelm her. Start slowly and do things she already likes. If she enjoys a foot massage, do that. If she lets you cum on her feet, lick it up. Later maybe share some cuckold porn with her or this blog post about Mistress makes a cuckold lick cum off her feet. Gently and slowly dangle ideas in front of her and then pay attention to her reaction.
A partner doesn’t have Mistress skills
My personal blog is called Experienced Mistress for a reason. I’ve been a cuckoldress in my private life. I talk to a lot of people with this fetish. Your wife won’t have the same skills.
She may not know how to wield her emotional and sexual power. If you need someone to dominate you, turn you into a sissy cuckold, and/or humiliate you – just know there’s a learning curve. And, she might choose to leave you for the bull instead of trying to negotiate all the nuances of the situation.
Bottom line is this: talk to a Mistress who knows what she’s doing. I can help you with your unique situation and we’ll both have a very good time doing it!
Click the player below to hear your cuckold assignment.
Your Experienced Mistress,
Ms Olivia
Oh my! I had a “hard” time reading this! And I am still hard! Lol. I think you already know how much I fantasize about this. But because of my situation it will never happen, alas. Nonetheless, I often fantasize about being YOUR cuckold. OMG. That’s all that was in my mind while reading this. I would have all those fears normally, but none at all with you (not that there’s any chance of it happening — just wishful thinking!). Communication is key as always. Being honest and open and really taking your partner’s feelings into consideration. After all, in my viewpoint and in my fantasies as your cuckold, it’s all about YOUR pleasure and satisfaction. Yes, I would definitely benefit from it, but that’s not my goal in my fantasies. Imagining you taking whoever you want, when ever you want and however you want would make me so so happy! Knowing you are satisfied in ways I could never give you. To me, THATS what it’s all about.
Thank you so much for this post! Now back to dreaming…
You, slut pie, have the true heart of the most delightful playmate — no matter the scene and you know what I would have you doing….grins
Oh yeah
In fact, you should practice your … ahem … technique right now!
send me a pic!
Awwwww, did SLUT pie have a hard time reading this? giggles You knew that comment would tickle me. And the rest of your comment does more than ‘merely’ tickle me … as you know there are all kinds of cuckold relationships and styles. Whenever I think of you/us in a cuckold scene you are always part of it rather than away from the action. For example you’re fluffing my lover, licking his balls while I suck him and most importantly cleaning me (and him) up!
Mmmmmmm okay now WHEW I’m fanning myself and getting a sip of cold water!